Mother and Daughter in laws

I thought to save this until Mothers Day but I think it’s close enough.

I recently just spent some time with a special friend at her daughter in law’s to be bridal shower. Over the years our children’s paths have been similar. We both have a daughter and a son. We were Mothers of the Bride and now we find ourselves Mothers of the Groom. Both our sons’ weddings are just two weeks apart. I was at her daughter in law’s to be shower this weekend and she will attend my daughter in law’s bridal shower this weekend. Our paths have been so similar where our children are concerned.

I just have to share a little from the perspective of the Mother of the Groom. I understand my own mother in law so much better now. I didn’t understand 32 years ago why it was so hard for her to let him go. I know now it was the giving up of the one she raised and cared for everyday for over 20 years to another woman. I wish now that I could have seen it from her perspective. I would have been more caring and more understanding. It’s hard to let the sons we’ve loved so dearly and invested in so heavily go but I raised him for this time. My husband and I taught him how to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it and also by example as he watched his father treat his mother with love and respect. We have a little plack in the house that says the best thing that a father can do for his children is to love their mother. We knew this day would come.

Our daughters it seems stay with us always. Although they become beautiful women with families of their own and even if they travel far from us they remain close, but sons they must become men and their wives become the most important women in their lives as it should be. Gen 2:24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

Now as I have been both daughter in law and mother in law I would like to encourage you both. Mother in laws love your daughter in laws. If it be at all possible draw them in close and welcome them with open arms. Be like Naomi and Ruth because you both love dearly and want the best for the same person, your son and her husband.

Daughter in laws try to understand how your mother in law feels. She has been his everything until now and she must relinquish him to another love. I know that is hard to understand. I didn’t when I was young. I wish I had. When you have a son you will understand. We turn over 20 some years of loving and investing to you and we pray you will love them forever.

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  1. janet says:

    Beth, I remember when God spoke to my heart about my new son-in-law. He showed me that he was now my son-in- grace….by God’s grace !! He truly has become a son to me!

    April 3rd, 2012
  2. Beth says:

    I love that Janet, Son in grace. Daughter in grace not law. Perfect. I will use that from now on if that’s ok. ;)

    April 3rd, 2012

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